The Corporate Media vs. The Hallmark Channel/Food Network
It's sometimes very difficult to know where you fit in. Whether in a new job, a new school, or just arriving at military boot camp. Fitting in, can be tough.
However, maybe the toughest situation to try and fit in is as a son-in-law of a blended family. Phew! I've "been a part" of this family now for neatly 10 years and I still have no earthly idea where I fit; what my role is; do I even have a fucking role? It's wild that as a 54-year-old man I'm trying to determine not only where i fit, but do I even fit?
Being the husband in a blended family is one of the most difficult, torturous things I've ever been involved with. You're married to these kids' Mother, but you're also definitely NOT their Father; not do they want you to be. The hurt and the emotional pain associated with this particular set up can sometimes be overwhelming. I've cried, I've drank to excess, I've left the home for hours on end going absolutely nowhere and I've spent a large portion of this relationship angry.....because I'm hurt. In April of 2021 (I think) I made peace with my lot in life and decided to end it all. I was tired of being a burden to the people that I care about. Fortunately a phone call from my beloved sister stopped me before I could go through with it. I think about that day alot.
It really is maddening for all parties involved. I completely understand that I've brought a large part of this on myself. But I also believe that I was never given a fair shot by the woman that I love to simply be me. She didn't like that version of me for her children and have played 2nd or 3rd fiddle ever since. I know it sounds like I'm whining and I'm trying desperately to not make it sound that way. i truly am lost.
So if you happen to be reading this and have any sort of guidance or wisdom please comment. Thanks
"Toxic masculinity" is a completely made up term by militant feminists to justify their own internal hatred for all men.
Better put, when the media and academia use this term, it's nearly always used in a pejorative sense and, according Michael J. Karson Ph.D., J.D., its used to mean "paranoia, sociopathy, malignant narcissism, or self-righteous vindictiveness." (https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/feeling-our-way/202205/the-myth-of-toxic-masculinity)
It stemmed from the #MeToo movement a few years back in which women were to be believed with regard to violence against them, alleged sexual harassment or assault, with utter disregard for the facts of a given case. Thus completely disemboweling one's right to assume innocence until proven guilty in a court of law. Most of us on social media have seen the would-you-rather scenario of a woman in the woods choosing a bear over a man.