Let It Go!

Do you know a person or people who seem to be completely incapable of letting stuff go?

It seems the longer that I inhabit the Blue Marble, the more people of this type I run into. I'm not completely certain as to the root cause of this dysfunction, but it would appear that these special individuals feel in some way slighted by another person, or society-at-large.
But rather than instituting coping mechanisms to deal with their emotions and perceived injustice, they continue to dig up filth from the past.

Some people who likely fall into this category are:

• Ex-wives
• Ex-husbands
• Ex-boyfriends
• Ex-girlfriends
• Ex-friends
• Ex-co-workers

Do you see the apparent pattern here? Those with whom we no longer associate, rather than looking at themselves as the main reason for the lack of association, tend to blame other people, the former friend, global warming, The Warren Commission, Tiger Woods, etc.
Also, there doesn't seem to be any correlation between the amount of time that has passed since the perceived injustice and the process of letting go. There are individuals with whom I am still acquainted that will bring up some "wrong" that I did against them from 8 years ago!!
8 years? Really? You have nothing more pressing in your life than to dwell on something that may or may not have happened to you 8 years ago?

Anyway, in honor of the three people that I have previously associated with who are completely incapable of letting shit go, here's my tribute you each of you!

Enjoy!

Who's Fault Is It Anyway?

Have you ever met an individual that is never, ever wrong?

I both worked with and been in relationships with these people who will forever be know as "do-gooders". The poor souls are living under the assumption that everyone else on the Blue Marble is wrong and they are always correct. It is at the same time both sad and frustrating.

Some common characteristics of Do-Gooders are:

1. The speed at which they are able to place blame. This could best be described as lightning-quick. For example, if you're in a discussion with a Do-Gooder, and there's even the slightest aroma of fault, it will be place on you in record time. They do this just so you know in the early stages that their MAIN focus is a fundamental lack of accountability.

2. Do-Gooders are able to sense uncertainty. Much lime a shark has the ability to smell chum in the water from hundreds of miles away, they can sense when you dont have your facts in order. When you are uncertain of your own falability. They will capitalize on that and you will be yaking the trash out for the 9th consecutive time this month.

3. Do-Gooders will spend little time developing a solution to a problem or issue.
This is the defining characteristic of a Do-Gooder; they are so busy placing blame and ditching responsibility they completely forget to look for a solution. This will likely be the first thing an untrained eye will notice about these poor people.

4. Do-Gooders are typically control freaks.
This goes hand-in-hand with their need to be "right" all thw time. Of they control the conversation, then they paint the picture they wants others to see. Peer perception is huge with Do-Gooders.

So there's a few things to be on the look out for. The best advice i could give you is to simply steer clear of them.